Appreciate what you've got

I suppose because you never know when it will be gone.
Up to a couple of weeks ago, i was in a (i thought) fairly secure, happy relationship with just a couple of ups and downs or things, you know the ones that you would like to change but you can live with anyway?
Then it was like someone had pulled the plug on me lol.
Now..i have had my fair share of crap and i did think at one time, what's the bloody point, so i had given up on relationships, and just concentrated on my son and daughter. To me, all men were mean, moody, abusive, unfathomable creatures that gave anyone involved with one of their species a whole pile of shit.
Or maybe it was just me. Friendships with men were fine, but relationships? SOD THAT!!
I was with someone for nearly ten years, where i can honestly and with nothing crossed say that if a day went past without me being hit or verbally abused, i must have missed it. So when we split up, i called it a day on boyfriend stuff. With one exception..i did go out with another man, who i am sort of still friends with, who was a habitual cheat, so, not being into open - on - one - side relationships, i called time on that one too. Now thoroughly disillusioned, i stayed single for two years. Ok, it was lonely at times, but i give it one thing, it was bloody peaceful with no crap or worrying about cheating partners or what i might catch lol.
I had tons and tons of friends and went out every friday, did what i wanted, when i wanted, and worked all week delivering car parts.
Through all of my relationships (two i would call serious) i have been faithful and not even flirted with another man, its just something i wouldn't do, no matter how badly i was being treated, i would give everything to my partner, and be only his.
One friend told me once, the one man who is worth all your tears, would NEVER make you cry. How true that is.
Just at that point i hadn't found that man and didn't think i ever would.
Probably didn't care either lol.
So, living my nice single life with its tough moments thrown in, i wasn't particularly looking for anyone.
On the internet i met some right weirdo's, but usually managed to fend them off by saying 'sorry i have a boyfriend' some of them would press the issue, 'does he mind sharing' YUK! I mean, i often wondered how THEY would feel if i was their partner, and another man said something like that..well we all know men, they would have a fit wouldn't they lol.
One person i used to speak to (now my current partner haha) i did like, but was sure as i knew he had children living with him, that he was married or something, so gave him the old 'sorry have a bf' and other brush offs, well for about six months this went on .. very funny.
When i did find out he was single i was like 'shit' but hey, hadn't lost anything really. So when we started speaking again, i made sure he was like totally single (i have never been one for hurting other people to get what i want) before accepting when he asked me to go to his work do.
AFTER i accepted obviously i told my sister (the first person of course!) who refused to say why but advised me not to go out with him. Of course i ignored this advice lol and found myself going out with, what i thought was, one of the kindest, most thoughtful, genuine people i had ever met.
From stating she didn't think much of him, my sister saw how happy i was and accepted she had been wrong.
And oh my god for those first few months i did not think i could be happier..ever.